REAL SUCCESS

I believe that to succeed, a person needs only four things.  You can remember them by thinking of the word REAL.

Relationships:  The greatest skill needed for success is the ability to get along with other people.  It impacts every aspect of a person's life.  Your relationships make you or break you.

Equipping:  One of the greatest lessons that I've learned in life is that those closest to you determine the level of your success.  If your dreams are great, you achieve them only with a team.

Attitude:  People's attitude determine how they approach life day-to-day.  Your attitude, more than your aptitude, will determine your altitude.

Leadership:  Everything rises and falls on leadership.  If you desire to "lift the lid" on your personal effectiveness, the only way to do it is to increase your leadership skills.

If you dedicate yourself to growing in these four areas, then it doesn't matter what kind of work you do.  You will become successful. 

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TEN TRADE-OFFS WORTH MAKING....

1.  Trade the first half for the second half.  Much of the first half of life is spent paying the price for later success.  The greater dues you pay now, the more the compound, and the greater potential for a successful second half.   

2. Trade affirmation for accomplishment.  Accolades fade quickly but your accomplishments have the potential to make a positive impact on the lives of others.

3.  Trade financial gain for future potential.  The temptation is almost always to go for the "big bucks."  But seeking to have greater potential almost always leads to a higher return - including financially.

4.  Trade immediate pleasure for personal growth.  It takes an oak tree decades to grow, but it takes a squash only weeks. Which do you want to be?

5.  Trade exploration for focus.  The younger you are, the more experimenting you should do.  But once you've found what you created to do, stick with it.

6.  Trade quantity of life for quality of life.  Your life is not a dress rehearsal.  Give it your best because you won't get another chance.

7. Trade security for significance.  The great men and women of history were great not because of what they owned or earned, but because they gave their lives o accomplish greatness.

8.  Trade acceptable for excellence.  If something is worth doing, either give it your best or don't do it at all.

9.  Trade addition for multiplication. When you invest in others, you multiply your effort - every person you assist becomes a fellow workmate.

10. Trade ambition for gratitude.  Anyone who succeeds does so because of the help and grace of others.  Be grateful for everything you have, and share it with others.

SIFAT RAHMAT

Sifat rahmat atau belas kasihan adalah amat penting sekali oleh kita jika ingin disebarkan ajaran Islam kepada seluruh manusia.  Begitu juga bagi yang ingin mendidik masyarakat kepada jalan kebaikan, seperti guru-guru, ibubapa dan yang utama adalah para pendakwah kerana dengan sifat ini dakwah dan usaha mereka akan lebih berkesan and menjadikan orang awam lebih mempercayai tentang perjuangan mereka.

Mereka inilah yang sepatutnya sentiasa menghulurkan salam serta senyuman walaupun mereka kadangkala dikata dan dituduh dengan perkara yang tidak benar.  Perhatikan firman Allah Subhanahu Wataala dalam menerangkan sifat orang yang beriman:

"Dan apabila orang-orang jahil berbicara kepada mereka (dengan bahasa yang tidak baik) mereka (orang beriman akan menjawab kepada mereka dengan ucapan

SELAMAT (SALAM)."

Memang benarlah kata-kata nasihat yang pernah disampaikan oleh seorang pendakwah terkenal dari Mesir, iaitu Sheikh Hasan Al-Banna:  "Jadilah kamu (sebagai orang beriman) seperti pohon yang sentiasa memberikan buah-buahan (kebaikan) kepada manusia, walaupun kadangkala pohon itu dilontar dengan batu (dihina) oleh manusia!"

Kita hendaklah sentiasa bersifat kasih sayang dan belas kasihan sesama manusia, walaupun kadangkala kita dikata dengan yang tidak baik dan bukan-bukan.

SUNSET...BEAUTIFUL

SUNSET IN KOTA KINABALU - MALAYSIA -  THE HUES - AMAZING!

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7 SYAWAL 1434H

Dear Friends and Relatives,

Wishing All Happy Eid Mubarak!

Sincerely yours, 
Aishah Said 

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ALHAMDULILLAH:  ALL PRAISE TO ALLAH

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AISHAH SAID

SALAM RAMADHAN....EID MUBARAK

ASSALAMUALAIKUM FRIENDS AND RELATIVES,

WISHING ALL, THE VERY BEST IN THE MONTH OF RAMADHAN AND COMING MONTH OF SYAWAL, 1434 HIJRAH.

WASSALAM,
AISHAH SAID

IT'S FRIDAY...

WILL BE BACK SOON!   SALAM....

RUJUK KEPADA AL-QURAN

ALLAH yang mencipta manusia dan Al-Qur'an memberitahu semua manusia penyelesaian yang terbaik dan segala bentuk maklumat yang diperlukan untuk hidup sejahtera.  Oleh itu bila berhadapan dengan masalah, menjadi sesuatu yang penting bagi orang-orang beriman untuk merujuk kepada ayat-ayat Al-Qur'an dan maksud yang tersirat daripadanya. Tidak mengira apa latarbelakang pengetahuan seseorang atau apakah pengetahuannya masih cetek, kerana hanya Allah yang menguasai segala pengetahuan.

Sehubungan ini, sesiapa yang inginkan sebuah kehidupan yang bahagia di dunia hendaklah patuh kepada prinsip-prinsip Al-Qur'an.  Apabila berbuat demikian orang itu akan memperolehi "hikmah kebijaksanaan",  satu nilai yang hanya dimiliki oleh mereka yang ingat dan takut kepada Allah.  Kebijaksanaan ini membawa mereka kepada hidup yang mulia, rasa gembira, tenang dan paling penting ialah dapat melaksanakan matlamat suci kewujudan mereka.  Apa yang mesti mereka lakukan ialah menyembah Allah dan berpegang dengan Al-Qur'an; meneliti, mengkaji perintah dan suruhan ayat, serta kehalusan maksud yang disampaikan dan seterusnya melaksanakan kitab suci tersebut.

IT'S RIGHT TO BE WRONG.

START being wrong and suddenly anything is possible.

You're in the unknown.  There's no way or knowing what can happen, but there's more chance of it being amazing than if you try to be right.

Of course, being wrong is a risk.

People worry about suggesting stupid ideas because of what others will think.

You will have been in meetings where new thinking has been called for, at your original suggestion.

Instead of saying, "That's the kind of suggestion that leads us to a novel solution", the room goes quiet, they look up to the ceiling, roll their eyes and return to the discussion.

Risks are a measure of people.  People  who won't take them are trying to preserve what they have.

People who do take them often end up  having more.

Some risks have a future, and some people call them wrong.  But being right may be like walking backwards proving where you've been.

Being wrong isn't in the future, or in the past.

Being wrong isn't anywhere but being here.

Best place to be, eh?

IT'S WRONG TO BE RIGHT.

BEING right is based upon knowledge and experience and is often provable.

Knowledge comes from the past, so it's safe. It is also out of date.  It's the opposite for originality.

Experience is built from solutions to old situations and problems.  The old situations are probably different from the present ones, so that old solutions will have to be bent to fit new problems (and possibly fit badly).  Also the likelihood is that, if you've got the experience, you'll probably use it.

This is lazy.

Experience is the opposite of being creative.

If you can prove you're right, you're set in concrete.  You cannot move with the times or with other people.

Being right is also being boring.  Your mind is closed.  You are not open to new ideas.  You are rooted in your own rightness, which is arrogant.   Arrogance is a valuable tool, but only if used very sparingly.

Worst of all, being right has a tone of morality about it.  To be anything else sounds weak or fallible, and people who are right would hate to be thought fallible.

So: it's wrong to be right, because people who are right are rooted in the past, rigid-minded, dull and smug.

There's no talking to them.  

SUCCESS...

Success is waking up 

in the morning, whoever you are,

wherever you are,

how old or young,

and bounding out of bed because 

there's  something out there that

you love to do, that you believe in, 

that you're good at -

something that's bigger than you are,

and you can hardly wait to 

get at it again today.

   - Whit Robbs -

SALAM JUMAAH

AMEEN

O ALLAH FORGIVE US AND HAVE MERCY ON US AND PROTECT OUR NECKS  FROM THE FIRE! AMEEN

READ AL-QURAN: QURAN IS AN ANTIDOTE FOR ALL ILLNESSES 

Dear Friends, 

Many thanks for your contribution to grace my personal website:  Thank you Allah:  Allah brought me good friends.

Sincerely yours
AISHAH SAID
 

CHILDREN

The tasks set for children should be moderate.  Over-exertion is hurtful both physically and intellectually, and even morally.  But it is of the utmost importance that they should be made to fulfil their tasks correctly and punctually.  This will train them for an exact and conscientious discharge of their duties in after life. - Hare   

Educators should constantly emphasise the process  - the hard work, the effort, the enjoyment of the journey, the importance of failures as learning opportunities - rather than the raw achievement and the outcome. Telling children how smart they are leads to a short-term high (for the child, as well as for the parent or teacher!), while in the long term it hurts the child's motivation, performance and well-being.  Parents and teachers should constantly be asking children what they learned - from others, from books, from their own mistakes and successes - and in what ways they have improved , and not what prizes and grades they received what the competition was like.

Children also have to understand that they don't have to be the best in everything and that just having fun is a legitimate reason for doing something.  At the same time, if they do want to excel, then effort is necessary - which does not preclude the possibility of having fun all the way.

MIND SET

A fixed mind-set is the belief that our abilities - our intelligence, physical competence personality, and interpersonal skills - are essentially set in stone and cannot really change.  We are either gifted and talented in which case we'll succeed  in school, at work, in sports, and our relationships, or we are permanently deficient and consequently doomed to failure.  In  contrast, a *growth-mindset is the belief that our abilities are malleable - that they can, and do change throughout our lives; we are born with certain abilities, but these provide a mere starting point, and to succeed we have to apply ourselves, dedicate time, invest a great deal of effort.

P.S.  Writer go for the *Growth-Mindset

HAPPY MOTHERS' DAY...

The love of a mother is always severely felt: even though her health may incapacitate her from taking any active part in the care of her family, still she is a sweet rallying-point around which affection and obedience, and thousand tender endeavours to please, concentrate; and dreary is the blank when such a point is withdrawn. - Lamartine

NURTURE YOUR "CHILDREN"

Do you take care of your "children"?  You may never have thought of your dreams as children, but that's what they are.  They are your offfspring - the joy of your today and the hope of your future.  Protect them. Feed them.  Nurture them. Encourage them to grow.  Care for them. For someday they may take care of you.  - Napoleon Hill

THE QUR'AN: THE BLESSED BOOK

When you recite the Qur'an and contemplate its meanings, you take a positive step toward achieving happiness.  Allah described the Qur'an as being guidance, light, and a cure for what is in the breasts of men.  He also described it as being a Mercy.

Dear Friends and Relatives,

I had set up another website: www.banyuemas2qss.blogspot.com specifically on the Al-Quran: A Thematic Commentary On The Qur'an, in English and Bahasa Malaysia.  Welcome to view.

Yours sincerely, 

AISHAH SAID

DEPEND UPON ALLAH ALONE

There are two points we should bear in mind when we think about the issues of hardship and relief:

First when one can no longer bear a hardship, he will lose all hope in human beings and as a result, his will depend upon Allah Alone. 

Second, whenever the true believer feels that relief is slow in coming, and whenever he feels that his prayers are not answered, he will blame no one save his own self.  He will say to hiself, "I am in this situation only because of you. Had you been worth anything your prayers would have been answered."  Such self-reproach is more beloved to Allah than many good deeds.  When a slave of Allah goes through this process of introspection and self-reproach, he breaks down before his Lord and admits his shortcomings and confesses that he deserves the calamity that befell him and that he doesn't deserve to have his prayers answered.  At this point, the answer for his prayers comes quickly and the black cloud above him dissipates.

MOTHER....

A mother's love is indeed the golden link that binds youth to age; and he is still but a child, however time may furrowed his cheek or silvered his brow, who can yet recall, with a softened heart, the fond devotion or the gentle chidings, of the best friend that God ever gives us. - Bovee 

PERFECT COMFORT AND REST ARE IN PARADISE

 

Imam Ahmad was asked: "When is there rest?"  He answered:  "When you put your foot in Paradise you will find rest." 

There is neither rest nor comfort of a lasting nature until one enters Paradise.  This life is full of problems, trials, ordeals, sickness and worries. 

PROSTRATE TO ALLAH TO A JOURNEY TO PARADISE!